Short rules.
Real consequences.

01The spirit of Vesper

Vesper is anonymous-by-default. You aren't building an audience here — you're joining a room or matching with one person at a time. The same anonymity that lets you be honest also makes it easier to be cruel. Don't.

A simple test: would you say this to a stranger sitting next to you on a late train? If not, don't say it on Vesper.

02What's welcome

• Honest conversation — about your day, your work, what's on your mind at midnight.
• Disagreement, when it's in good faith.
• Flirting and romantic conversation, when both people have opted in (e.g. Flirty, Romantic, or Intense Chemistry moods).
• Venting, advice-seeking, lurking quietly in a room you like.
• Humour, including humour that pokes fun at the platform itself.

03What's not allowed

These will get you removed, usually permanently:

• Sexual content involving minors. Zero tolerance, immediate ban, reported to authorities where required by law.
• Threats of violence against a person or group.
• Hate speech targeting people based on race, religion, caste, ethnicity, gender identity, sexuality, or disability.
• Doxxing — sharing someone's real name, phone, address, workplace, or other identifying info without consent.
• Non-consensual intimate imagery or anything sexual sent to someone who didn't opt in.
• Promoting self-harm or suicide. If you're struggling, please reach out — see the Safety Center.
• Selling, scamming, or off-platform recruitment — including crypto pitches, OnlyFans funneling, MLM, and "DM me on Telegram" scams.
• Impersonation of another person, public figure, or Vesper staff.
• Spam — repeated identical messages, link-spamming, or trying to game referral rewards.

04In rooms

Rooms are themed group chats. Stay roughly on-topic — not because we want sterile conversation, but because everyone else came for the theme. If a thread keeps drifting, take it to a DM.

• Don't flood the room with one-line spam.
• Don't @-bait specific users into arguments. If two people are stuck, walk away or block.
• Treat the room's vibe as belonging to everyone in it. A 2am quiet room and a 9pm crowded room have different rules of engagement; read the room.

05In mood matches

When two people pick the same mood, we connect them for a short, low-pressure conversation. The mood you both chose is the consent signal — it tells you what kind of conversation the other person is open to.

• Respect the mood. If they picked Friends, they didn't pick Flirty. Don't flip it without asking.
• One ask, one answer. If you ask to switch moods or move the conversation forward and they say no (or go quiet), that's your answer.
• End cleanly. "This isn't clicking, take care" is a complete sentence.

06In DMs and voice calls

DMs and calls only happen between two people who both said yes — usually after a mood session, a room interaction, or being saved to your Circle. Consent for the conversation isn't consent for everything in it.

• Don't send sexual content unprompted, even in a DM.
• Don't pressure for selfies, photos, real-name reveals, or off-platform contact.
• If you're uncomfortable on a voice call, just hang up. The other person sees the call ended; no explanation required.

07Avatars, Auras, and handles

Avatars on Vesper are algorithmically generated — there are no photos, no selfies. That's deliberate. Don't try to work around it by encoding identifying info into your handle or display name.

• No phone numbers, social handles, or external links in your handle, display name, or avatar config.
• No slurs or harassment in handles.
• No impersonation of real people through name + avatar combinations.

08How we enforce

Reports go to a human moderator within minutes. Most violations follow a graduated ladder — warning, temporary mute, temporary suspension, permanent ban. Severe violations (the list in §3) skip straight to a ban.

We track offense counts per account. The pattern matters as much as any single message — three borderline reports against you weigh more than one outlier.

For the full breakdown of what each penalty looks like, see Safety Center → What happens after a report.

09Appealing a decision

If you think a warning, mute, or ban was a mistake, reply to the in-app notification or write to support@vesperchat.live from the phone number on the account. A second moderator — not the one who made the original call — will review.

Appeals on permanent bans for severe violations (CSAM, threats, doxxing, hate speech) are not granted.